Online Dating During COVID-19: 5 Dating Tips for Black Men

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Online dating is a struggle for many, and COVID-19 has put more stress on everyone. On top of the social struggles you might already experience as a black man, you may find yourself wondering how to navigate the online dating scene.

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1. Know What You Want, But Keep an Open Mind

It’s important to know what you’re looking for, especially when you’re searching online for an interracial relationship. Having an idea in mind about the ideal person you would like to date can make it easier when faced with an almost infinite amount of online profiles. Think about how would answer these questions and why:

  • What do you consider a ‘deal-breaker’?
  • Would you rather date someone who can relate to you more or someone who introduces you to new things more?
  • Are you nervous about interracial dating?
  • Are there certain topics you don’t feel comfortable discussing?

By exploring your mind and practising self-reflection, you can become a better partner, no matter who you choose to date.

While it’s important to know what you want, you need to find a balance. If your requirements for a partner are too strict, you’ll miss out on getting to know amazing people. Know that a person’s worth is never defined solely by their physical appearance or their identity. The only way to know if someone is a good match is by judging them based on their personality.

2. Take Time to Get to Know Each Other

In the beginning stages of a relationship, it’s easy to idolize your lover and miss the little things that might annoy you. The problem is that these quirks are a part of who they are, and for your relationship to work well, you need to know who you’re dating. Focus on having meaningful conversations online and spending quality time together whether it’s over the phone or through video chat.

3. Be True to Yourself

Identity, whatever that means to you, is perhaps the most important part of dating. After all, who doesn’t want to know who their partner is deep down? Be honest about who are and how you feel about who you are. Confidence is important to win someone over—but vulnerability is important to build trust. Remember that rushing a relationship could lead to disaster. Build trust over time, and let your love grow slowly.

4. Acknowledge Your Cultural Differences

Amid the global revolution surrounding the Black Lives Matter movement and the current political climate in America, race relations are at the forefront of many political discussions. Some people might believe that not talking about this topic might help them avoid awkward situations, but you cannot deny any differences in your backgrounds. Talking through your upbringing, personal experiences, and world views will help you foster a better understanding of your differences. It’s important to accept and embrace your cultural differences in any relationship.

5. Pay No Mind to People Who Bring You Down

You will likely face backlash from people who don’t understand you. Your most difficult struggles could even come from you or your lover’s friends and family. While micro-aggressions and even blatant racism may not come as a surprise, it’s important to recognize that prejudice coming from the people who are important to your partner might hit a little different. To build a strong and meaningful relationship, discuss situations with your partner that made you upset or uncomfortable. Talk about what their friend’s and family’s reactions might be to your relationship. Know what you’re getting into—before you get into it.

Remember that dating isn’t supposed to be easy. Learn from your struggles, and get out there!